Like any new relationship, there is a lot to learn about someone. Some things you pick up over time, some things you learn on your own, some things are pointed out to you to remember. This past weekend was a great learning experience for Stu and I...All about expectations, assumptions, and respect.
Stu usually works on Saturdays. So, when I texted him about going out on a double date with me later that night, I knew it was spur of the moment. After saying yes, I got the details and left him a voice mail, also adding in that I think he should wear a button up collared shirt and kahki pants (which looks amazing on him). He called back around 5 (date was at 8:00) to tell me he was going to the pool with a friend. He assured me that they'd be leaving at 6:30 which would give him time to go home, shower, change, and pick me up. Now, Stu is typically late which has caused some slight friction in the past mind you. Well, I get ahold of him at 7:10 to find that he's just now leaving. I naturally assume that he's still going home to shower and change.
So to my astonishment, I hear a knock at my door at 7:35. It's Stu...unshowered, in a polo and kahki shorts (polo being 2 sizes too small since he borrowed the clean shirt from his friend). In Stu's mind, he looks presentable and is not only on time but has made the effort of being early. I, on the otherhand, was furious that he didn't shower and change like he assured me he'd do.
Long story short, I learned to not me so negative. He learned to communicate to me when plans change.
What happened next? Well, the very next day, Stu called me and asked if he could take me out on a really nice date where we both get dressed up! He wanted me to understand that it wasn't that he didn't want to dress really nice that night, he just didn't have time. Tonight's the date and I'm excited. Yay for wonderful boyfriends.
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